Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: Sam.
[00:00:28] Speaker B: Appreciate y' all joining in. Toxicity to Toxicity podcast live with myself and my guest today, Willie.
[00:00:39] Speaker C: Thanks for having me. Thanks for having me.
[00:00:41] Speaker B: Let's go ahead and take a moment. Go ahead and introduce your business first, Will.
[00:00:44] Speaker C: My name is Willie Grant.
I alongside my mother, we have a cleaning service, Grant's Commercial residential cleaning Services.
We offer move in, move out specials if you have a business, if you're moving out, trying to get your security deposit back, definitely help with that.
Also, any interior painting that may be done. I also do that as well.
We are locally licensed and bonded in Florence, South Carolina.
Yeah, that's pretty much. And also I run Exotics nightclub.
[00:01:29] Speaker B: Okay, so y' all know Willie now talking to Mic, too. Trying to sound all Rico's father.
We're gonna talk about 5050 or 100 hundred, and we're gonna talk about it not just on a relationship level or male and female level. We can talk about it on a community level, too.
Just on a perspective, a mental perspective. You know, I feel like.
Got it.
We got it. Where I feel like a lot of people expect too much out of the community and don't give nothing to the community, you know, and so that way, the 100 come in and the 50, 50 come in, you know, you can't expect no more than what you give.
But we also want to talk about relationship element when it comes to a male, female dynamic. What do you expect out of a relationship when you're dealing with a female?
Say what?
Oh, you can't hear me.
[00:02:30] Speaker A: Trendy.
[00:02:33] Speaker B: Not over there. So I just need to talk up.
Okay, so it goes for you too, Willie.
All right, so the dynamic man basically saying most females feel like the guy. The man should be 100 provider in the household or relationship or association, you know, and most females.
Hold on. Let me. Let me correct myself before I get jumped on.
Hold up.
Some females feel like a man is obligated, and they feel they come with a sense of entitlement when it comes to his finances, that they base their relationship or association or their feelings off the finances. So if he ain't giving 100% or willing to put up 100%, they ain't even interested in him. So a lot of men, they get dismissed because on a professional level, in. On a professional level, if he ambitious a goal in. Goal oriented in any way or in the midst of his journey, he got to overlook or he's often overlooked because of that.
So I'll give you your. I'll give you the opportunity to comment on it as well.
And Then we'll go to the audience. And if you want to step up, if you want to comment, you'll have to come up to the stage and comment and provide you your insight or your opinions, huh?
No, you don't have to come on camera. You just have to come up here and get the mic.
All right?
[00:04:16] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:04:16] Speaker C: I think the immediate red flag for most women when we bring up the.
[00:04:21] Speaker B: 5050 is gotta talk to the mic.
[00:04:24] Speaker C: Can you hear me? Oh, good.
I think the immediate red flag for most women when we bring up the 5050 topic or we start talking about the 50 50, they kind of get disgusted because it's like, you don't want me to halfway respect you as a man. You're a provider. You know what I'm saying? You're a leader. You're not a halfway leader.
So why would you be presenting yourself with 50%, you know, and also flip side of that, if you can only provide 50 cent, a relationship should be the last thing on your mind. You worry about a relationship, but you can't fully take care of your household. See what I'm saying?
So I think that's where the.
That's where the.
The issue with women in the 5050 conversation, I think that's where we kind of start bumping heads. On the flip side of that, you have men like, well, I can't be in love if I'm not 100 financially secure.
True enough, you can, but you have to date. Date within your range. See what I'm saying? If.
If, you know, you can't afford a woman who makes six figures.
[00:05:43] Speaker B: You know.
[00:05:43] Speaker C: That ain't the type of woman. You should go out there.
[00:05:45] Speaker B: See what I'm saying?
[00:05:46] Speaker C: So it's like, when it comes to that 50, 50, you have to put all of that in perspective.
You have to put all of that in perspective. You know what I'm saying?
But that's just my opinion. Don't shoot the messenger. That's just, you know, that's just how I feel about it, Me, personal.
[00:06:06] Speaker B: I have to agree.
I have to agree to a certain extent.
To a certain extent.
Right.
I noticed you said that I shouldn't be entertaining the relationship unless I'm in position to 100% divide.
I mean, that's the same thing.
[00:06:25] Speaker A: We're being told that if you. You ain't got the money, you don't need to be worrying about being with me.
[00:06:32] Speaker C: You don't need to worry about. You don't need to worry about being with nobody.
[00:06:34] Speaker A: But why is that a defining family?
[00:06:36] Speaker C: If you if you still trying to find.
[00:06:37] Speaker B: If I like somebody, if I really, I'm really vibing with her and I really like her and I really want to be with her, and I'm in the midst. I'm in the midst of my journey. I might be going to school.
[00:06:45] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:06:46] Speaker B: Right now. All right. I might have just opened up a business, you know what I mean? You just opened up a business?
[00:06:53] Speaker A: You broke? Yeah. For real, for a minute. Even when you got it, you still.
[00:06:59] Speaker C: Broke for a minute.
[00:07:00] Speaker B: I told him I ain't been in strip club for a while, you know what I'm saying?
[00:07:04] Speaker A: I mean, so you just, you know.
[00:07:08] Speaker B: You'Re in the midst of your journey, but you know, your ambition, you know, where you headed, you know what you're trying to accomplish, you know what I'm saying? So if you come in contact with a woman that can appreciate that, you know what I mean, she should be able to. I say should be.
I would hope that her mentality would be open minded and be receptive to what I'm currently going on and what I'm trying to accomplish instead of looking at me right now, what I can personally provide for her.
And I don't.
[00:07:35] Speaker A: And I personally don't want to be.
[00:07:36] Speaker B: With somebody that is interdependent on me.
[00:07:41] Speaker A: I don't want that.
[00:07:42] Speaker B: So any woman that I endeavor to be with, I want to try to build her up so she can be independent in herself. She can be her own revenue, you know, whether or not I'm providing for her or not, I want her to be able to provide for herself, you know, So I absolutely don't feel like me getting in a relationship or me entertaining a woman should be determined on my financial status at the time, you know?
You know, because my time, let's be 100 now.
[00:08:16] Speaker A: I ain't got the time to be.
[00:08:19] Speaker B: Sitting here trying to be financially romantic.
I could be romantic without being financially romantic, you know, I could cook you dinner, you know, I can lay out flowers, I can, you know, run your baths. I can read to you.
I can do things that will stimulate, you know, rather than, you know, take you on trips or fly you out or take you on shopping sprees, you know, So I feel like.
I feel like the finances should not be a determining factor, you know, now when I'm in position and my finances.
[00:08:58] Speaker A: Are all the way up. Yeah, she don't pay for nothing.
[00:09:02] Speaker B: She don't want for nothing. She gonna touch her door whether I'm broke or paid, you know what I mean? She don't Pay for a meal. Whether I'm broke or paid, you know, it's minor things, you know, but when I'm up and I'm in, she don't want for nothing. You know what I'm saying? But that's a goal for us. As a man, as a provider, I'm driven by the.
By the desire to be able to give my woman the world and beyond. You know, I mean, to be able to, you know, put her in a position where, you know, she got before I got, or we got, or I don't got.
You know what I mean?
[00:09:44] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:09:44] Speaker C: You know, in those instances, then your 50 ain't gonna look like her 50. You see what I'm saying? Your 50 ain't gonna be her 50. Your 50 may consist of, well, I can take a load off of you when it comes to the household. You see what I'm saying? So, baby, you ain't got to worry about cooking. Baby, you ain't got to worry about cleaning, maybe. You ain't got to worry about washing your car. You don't got to worry about things that you may have to work worry about. You see what I'm saying?
[00:10:10] Speaker B: She ain't gonna cut the guys. She should be cutting the grass.
[00:10:12] Speaker A: Yeah.
[00:10:12] Speaker C: I mean, exactly. Pumping gas, anything like that. Like, yo, yo, your 50 ain't gonna look like her 50. And sometimes, you know, it may be.
[00:10:19] Speaker A: 70, 30, but that's just being a gentleman.
[00:10:21] Speaker C: Yeah, it is.
You got women that gonna stop and they gonna pump their own gas.
See what I'm saying?
[00:10:27] Speaker B: Yeah, but she really ain't got no business doing that.
That's her choice, though, right? That's her choice. It's her choice to get out the car before you can walk all the way around and open that door.
No matter how many times you tell her, don't touch the door.
See, my daughter know. Don't even touch the door. My daughter don't even touch the door. I get up and open the door for my daughter.
[00:10:45] Speaker C: My daughter the same way. She ain't gonna touch the door.
[00:10:48] Speaker B: So whatever man she get with in her lifetime, he want to know what he got to do.
[00:10:51] Speaker C: She ain't gonna touch. My daughter ain't gonna touch the door.
[00:10:53] Speaker B: She ain't gonna sit mad at you. Open it.
[00:10:55] Speaker C: If Brandon, you better jump out with that arm broom and walk around her door.
[00:10:58] Speaker B: That's definitely what Tiana do. Tiana sit right there. That I open that door, she ain't going.
Definitely. You know, she and my daughter know that she don't want for nothing. She don't have to ask for nothing. She don't have to need for nothing. But her job is to be the best her.
You know, to maximize school, maximize her character. You know what? I'm be principally minded. You know, be open minded. Like, you know, so long as she do the right thing, as long as she make the right choices, I'll be everything. You know what I'm saying? I think that comes.
That comes right along with being in a relationship or being with a woman. Now, I'll trip you out. Don't trip y'.
[00:11:32] Speaker A: All.
[00:11:33] Speaker B: I'll trip you out.
Let's go this way. Let's go this route with it.
Let's say I'm trying to look out for you. Say we dated. Say I show interest.
[00:11:40] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:11:41] Speaker B: Right. Let's ask your interest. Let's say I show interest. We're gonna. We're gonna hit it. We're gonna hit another avenue. Say I show interesting. I'm dating and I'm trying to do the romantic. Or I'm trying to show you a little love Mike. Say, give me electricity bill. Give me a. Give me utility bills. I got them this month. Or give me your rent. I got this that month.
Is it right for her now to become entitled to think that I'm supposed to do that next month?
Or better yet, I'm gonna hit you with this.
Is it all right for her to act like I supposed to do that, even if she's treating me in a negative manner or even if she gets caught in a lot?
H. Let me hear your reply on this one, okay?
[00:12:26] Speaker C: Honest. Honest moment.
[00:12:36] Speaker A: You still going to need a place to stay.
[00:12:37] Speaker C: Whether she lying to you or not, you still going to need a place to stay. You see what I'm saying? So as far as, like, paying bills, taking care of the household, you know, like, no, it ain't your responsibility to help.
That's what you signed up for. That's a relationship. No different way. If you dating somebody that has kids, that's that. That's a package deal. So that. That comes with it. You can't say, oh, well, this morning, I ain't paying your bills, baby girl. Cause your mama lied to me.
See what I'm saying?
[00:13:08] Speaker A: Can't.
[00:13:08] Speaker C: Nah, you can't separate the two. Not in that instance, you know? But it's not okay for a woman to feel like, yeah, you got to pay all my bills, cuz. What if we not in the same household? I got a house. You got a house. But we're dating.
And nine out of ten, when it Starts. That's how it should be. We don't start dating and. Oh, yeah, we going to move in together, right? No, we might spend a night. A couple nights. You spend the night over here A couple nights.
[00:13:30] Speaker B: And.
[00:13:31] Speaker C: Yeah.
[00:13:31] Speaker B: So I can't. So I can't kick her off because she lied to me.
[00:13:33] Speaker C: No, no, no, no. That's kind of shallow. That's kind of shallow.
[00:13:42] Speaker A: Isn't it her responsibility to be mindful of that, though?
[00:13:45] Speaker C: Right?
[00:13:45] Speaker B: It's her responsibility to be mindful of that.
[00:13:47] Speaker A: Now, it's not for me to be mindful of that.
[00:13:49] Speaker B: It's for her to be mindful of that.
[00:13:50] Speaker A: Right.
[00:13:51] Speaker B: She understands the situation like I understand the situation now, because I'm saying the situation, vice versa. I'm staying in her spot. I'm living in her spot. And I shoot her some lies. I shoot her a lie that doesn't damage the trust factor, the confidence factor.
[00:14:07] Speaker A: Right?
Now, she don't know where I'm at.
[00:14:10] Speaker B: When I say I'm at work or.
[00:14:11] Speaker A: She don't know this, that, and the third. So now she's gonna torment herself and worry herself to death. So why go through that.
[00:14:20] Speaker C: Off topic?
[00:14:21] Speaker A: But yeah, I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I'm just saying.
[00:14:24] Speaker B: I say that. I say that because the 50, 50 or the finances become such an obligatory entitlement factor in relationships to where somebody feel like they can do you any kind of way or move any kind of way and not have to deal with the consequences of that being a removal factor or not, or that being something that's going to take it out the equation.
Because like you say, oh, I'm obligated to you now. I can't just put you on the street.
[00:14:51] Speaker A: But, bro, is Duke worrying about putting me out, turning my lights off if I don't pay him?
No, they're not worried about my situation. They don't care If I got 20.
[00:15:00] Speaker B: Kids in the house.
[00:15:01] Speaker A: Right? They gonna cut them, cut the blankets off.
[00:15:03] Speaker B: Right. You know what I'm saying?
[00:15:04] Speaker A: If I don't do right, it's a choice. It's a decision.
[00:15:07] Speaker B: I have to make the right choice in the decision because of my circumstances. She need to make the right choice and decision.
Her circumstances.
[00:15:15] Speaker A: And there's consequences, your actions.
[00:15:16] Speaker B: You can't lie to someone or treat someone in a negative manner and expect.
[00:15:21] Speaker A: To receive the benefits of still being with him.
[00:15:26] Speaker B: Now, you can excuse it.
[00:15:27] Speaker A: You say, yeah, okay, yeah, that's cool. We let it pass. But what when it happens again?
[00:15:33] Speaker C: Then that 50, 50 turns into 100, cuz she going to have a bill herself.
[00:15:37] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying?
[00:15:39] Speaker C: So, I mean, but you know, if you deal with that type one, with that type woman and she on that type of time and she can pay all her bills, then, you know, what.
[00:15:45] Speaker B: If she can't pay the bills?
[00:15:47] Speaker C: Hey, did you know, it's like, you better get in all orders, you know.
[00:15:50] Speaker B: Hey, need to be mindful of the situation.
Now I'm talking. That's fair enough. That's fair enough.
Yeah, we too close together.
I need to turn it down.
Thank you.
[00:16:06] Speaker A: You're welcome. Yeah, okay, I got it.
[00:16:09] Speaker B: Got to talk straight into it like this. Okay. Okay.
Anybody want to say anything from the audience? I'll pause for that before I move on.
Come on, come on, come on, Sonny, I see you.
Barely see you.
Come on, you handle yours or mine?
[00:16:34] Speaker D: Hey, y' all.
[00:16:38] Speaker B: Watch the speaker.
It ain't that one there. She under the one. Okay, come here.
[00:16:51] Speaker D: Test one, two.
[00:16:54] Speaker B: Yeah, go ahead. For right there.
[00:16:57] Speaker D: Hello, everybody.
[00:16:59] Speaker C: How you doing?
[00:17:00] Speaker B: Hello.
[00:17:01] Speaker D: So I was listening to you guys have your moment. And you guys did make valid.
You guys did make valid statements. But before I get to 50, 50 and 100. 100.
First start off one, you have to know who you're dealing with. One, and then two, how you meet that person, you have to maintain and you have to be consistent.
So if you meet a girl, take her out, splurge on her, pay her bills, you should be able to continue to do that.
Unless you guys are in a relationship, it's different.
Far as 100, 150, 50.
Personally, I believe in giving 100% because the man, he will already have shown me that he's able to lead, provide and protect me where I would want to do the same for him.
Now, if, you know, we live in separate households or we move together. Separate households.
[00:18:09] Speaker E: I don't believe.
[00:18:09] Speaker D: I don't think that a man should be paying my bills. That's something. Personally, I wouldn't really ask because it's just to say that, you know, I will consider that he. People want to keep doing that. And then if that one time you say, I can't do it, it's going to like, you know, have me to think, like, dang, you started this. You know what I'm saying? Like, why can't you maintain it? Because that's how you introduce yourself to me.
[00:18:36] Speaker A: Now.
[00:18:36] Speaker D: If you from the beginning to say, look, all I got is a dollar, some love, I can protect you, then I was a woman would respect the man more because he was 100% with me at the very beginning. And I think that a lot of guys now, I'm not going to say, well, a lot of guys now is based on image. And social media really got us thinking that everyone has to live a lavish life. Like, no one really posts like their downfalls. No one can post their bank accounts to say, well, I can take care of her or I can maintain it. Because sometimes as a man, as far as what a lot of us women experience, they have like masses on their face just so they can get us, but they can't keep us because they don't know how to really be honest at the very beginning. So as a man, do you guys think that at the very beginning that a lot of you guys kind of false who you are?
Because how you come to us, that's how we're going to always view you.
Now, if you can't do it at that moment or, or if it's something that, you know, I can't do it right now, I'm hurting, then whoever you're dealing with, that's where communication come in. That's when you would know the person you're dealing with. Because as a woman, she should be able to respect that and understand that. So if you like, you know, if you experience someone getting upset because you couldn't do something, then that was just on the man's fault because that's just who he showed her who he was at the beginning. So I, I don't really fault the female to say, well, you know, you can't do it this and that, blah, blah, blah. But it's based on the man because that's who you introduce yourself to me as.
So, you know, sometimes for a man, I feel like a female will respect you more if you approach a situation and say, well, look, I ain't got it all right now, I'm working hard. I can support you, I can love on you, I can get your nails done, your toes done. But I'm not, you know, one of them. And I think a female, they'll respect you way more in advance.
[00:20:43] Speaker B: That's it.
You're basically saying that as long as.
[00:20:47] Speaker D: Do need to be nasty, they just be trying to be nasty. They'll try, you know what I'm saying? They try to do this and that and then they can't even, you know.
[00:20:56] Speaker A: So, you know, so he just needs.
[00:21:00] Speaker B: To be genuine up front.
[00:21:02] Speaker A: Be who.
[00:21:03] Speaker B: He is up front and stop trying to fake in front, up front. Because most guys now, I guess it's different, you know, I got a little age with me, you know, when I was younger, females talked to the guys based off character, you know what I mean? You can spit your game or, you know, take somebody out and they get to know you. Nowadays it seems like they want to. You gotta have money off top or.
[00:21:22] Speaker A: You got the bag, who got the bag?
[00:21:24] Speaker B: You know, so that's based on social media. So.
[00:21:27] Speaker A: So it's a bit different.
[00:21:28] Speaker B: A bit different.
[00:21:28] Speaker A: It didn't matter who had the money.
[00:21:30] Speaker B: When I was 19, 20 years old, you know, I mean, I'm 47 now.
[00:21:33] Speaker A: So it didn't matter back then who had the bag, you know.
[00:21:38] Speaker B: You know, we.
[00:21:40] Speaker A: It just matter who had.
[00:21:41] Speaker B: How you carried yourself.
[00:21:43] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:21:43] Speaker B: You know, and that went a long way. Your character went a long way, you know.
[00:21:47] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:21:48] Speaker A: Nowadays that don't matter.
[00:21:49] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:21:49] Speaker B: You know, now, now you could be.
You could be skeletor as long as you got a long as you got some money.
[00:21:55] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:21:56] Speaker B: You know, and females gonna sweat them.
[00:21:58] Speaker D: Some females, not saying I, well, seem like a mass.
[00:22:02] Speaker B: Majority of them do.
[00:22:03] Speaker D: Yeah. I'm older now, but I will say since I've already experienced it, I wouldn't do it now, but a lot of females, they were broke. I mean, they would date a broke man to help them rise, you know. But now, since I've experienced, I wouldn't personally do it because I've seen like what I've experienced to say that, well, I supported someone who didn't have it all.
Once he got to a certain level, he forgot who he was at the beginning and tried to downplay me. So I wouldn't date a broke man. But a lot of women, they will possibly date a man that doesn't have it all.
[00:22:38] Speaker B: Well, you're very rare.
[00:22:40] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:22:42] Speaker B: You'Re very rare. I mean, that's being honest. You need to be. You need to be cheerful. You're very rare, you know.
Well, let me ask you a question though, sonny.
[00:22:52] Speaker D: Sure.
[00:22:53] Speaker B: What about the woman?
[00:22:55] Speaker A: And that demands a man have a.
[00:22:58] Speaker B: Certain financial status when she has none?
[00:23:01] Speaker D: Well, like I said, the beginning is based on who you're dealing with. You have to know who you're dealing with. That's the man's choice to want to deal with her. And as a man who's supposed to be a leader and provider, if that's the person who he wants to be with, he should want to be able to help investor to help bring her to where he wants her to be or to her greatest point.
[00:23:22] Speaker B: You got something to say to that?
[00:23:28] Speaker C: Hey, friend, that, that that was a lot to take in. That was a lot to take in. But I will say this.
I agree with you. I agree with you as far as the front because, you know, since we being real, you know, like, I myself, I didn't. Did a little bit of that, you know, it's like a fake it till you make it type, you know, it's like.
[00:23:49] Speaker B: But.
[00:23:50] Speaker D: And that's okay, huh? I said that's okay.
[00:23:53] Speaker C: Yeah. And, you know, a lot of times you, you run into the wrong people that way. You see what I'm saying?
[00:23:58] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:23:58] Speaker C: You run into a. To people that's like, you know, you'll see they true colors when you tell them no, or I ain't got it this week, or I ain't got it this month, or nah, I can't pay for that. I can't help you on the bill. You know what I'm saying? It's like, it's like the struggle really attracts the woman that you need.
[00:24:14] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:24:15] Speaker C: Or, or you would feel like that. You know what I'm saying?
[00:24:18] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:24:18] Speaker C: So it's like, I understand where you coming from. You know, it's like, you know, I might be going through. It's like, same thing with me. Millionaires, you know, they, they have ups and downs. I might make a bad investment and lose all my money.
[00:24:30] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:24:31] Speaker C: I might have been able to pay all the bills. You know, up until this point, my broker or my, my accountant may have ran off with some money. It happens all the time. You see what I'm saying? So it's like in those instances, then what, you know what I'm saying, If you, if you're not dealing with a woman that's going to, you know, hold you up through that, it's like, why even deal with that?
[00:24:49] Speaker D: I agree. And that's what I said at the beginning is based on you have to know who the person is.
And sometimes you have to accept who the person is once you see their true colors. And that's just that.
[00:25:00] Speaker C: And as far as, you know, I guess people kind of faking their stories, like, you know, I don't know. I was one of the people. Like, I still got the woman I want when I couldn't even pay. I couldn't even pay for a haircut. You see what I'm saying?
Like, I never had to, you know, I never had to like, like, fake kicking. I never had to, hey, listen, I got this much money. You going to come talk to me? Nah, I never was like that. I never was the type of person to like, Pay people to have to be around me. Like I always was my genuine, authentic self. And I think, like, because of that, like, I still got a lot of relationships with a lot of people. Like, genuine relationships. And they're not built off money. Like nothing but friendship. Like Titus, you know, our relationship based strictly off love, not a dollar bill. Because both of us been around each other when we were at our lowest, you know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, yeah. We ain't gonna get into details.
[00:25:51] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:25:52] Speaker C: Statute of limitations ain't up. But, yeah, like, both of us been at. At our lowest around each other. You know what I'm saying? A lot of people may be like, I ain't never seen you around him. You ain't never look.
[00:26:01] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:26:02] Speaker C: You know what I'm saying? Like, yeah, like, but, you know, like, like, so it's like, you know, like that 50, 50, you know, like, back to the original subject. You know, that 50, 50 is like, you know, like, you're an adult. You're gonna have to pay all your bills by yourself. You see what I'm saying? If I'm getting a help mate or partner, you're not gonna want me to have to pay 100 of everything, because what does that leave you If I'm paying 100 of everything and knocks out of 10 average, average adults, male, has a child somewhere or multiple children. You know, like, how am I supposed to take care of myself, take care of you, take care of my household, take care of outside kids. You see what I'm saying? It's like, that's a lot.
[00:26:48] Speaker D: Well, that's not considered. Well, that I. I don't really consider.
[00:26:51] Speaker C: I got kids in college.
[00:26:52] Speaker D: Yeah, I don't really know. Yeah, I don't really. Okay, so the whole 50, 50 thing, that's why I said I agree on 100. 100.
Because the 5050 thing, like I said, that's half for me, and the 5050 is half for you. So if you're providing, paying the bills, car notes, whatever it is, to maintain, to keep all the lights on. And as a woman, she should be able to cook clean, keep you fly, keep you healthy, keep, you know, keep you to your highest level, to where as though that's what you want to do. So all the bills are being paid, you still have a few thousands of dollars in your pocket, because as a woman, you shouldn't want to date no broke woman yourself. So if you met her broke, then nine times out of 10, if you don't be able to help uplift her, she's Going to stay at the bottom. You're going to always run into that situation. So 50. 50. I'll say 100.
[00:27:43] Speaker B: 100, right. My belief is 100, 100 plus. I always say this, man, like, I isolate, like Clemson. Little slogan, all in. When my son was playing for Clemson, they had all in.
I believe in it.
[00:27:58] Speaker A: I like that. I want to be able to be.
[00:28:00] Speaker B: All in, but I want to be able to be all in confidently.
[00:28:03] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:28:03] Speaker B: I don't want to have to lie.
[00:28:04] Speaker A: To myself in faith.
[00:28:06] Speaker B: I want to be confident. I want to. I want to really believe in who I'm all in with. And I want to be a contributor. I want to be a benefit to her, you know, So I want. It doesn't bother me to pay the bills.
[00:28:19] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:28:19] Speaker B: You know, it doesn't bother me to sit down with you and build a blueprint and be able to iron out where you're going to be at tomorrow, how you're going to move and how you're going to execute these tasks for.
[00:28:28] Speaker A: The next two years to get here.
[00:28:30] Speaker B: You know, I want to be able to sit here and develop and inspire you to achieve something far greater than what you even thought that you could accomplish.
[00:28:37] Speaker D: Yeah.
[00:28:38] Speaker B: And the only way we're going to.
[00:28:39] Speaker A: Do that is if it takes me.
[00:28:40] Speaker B: Taking the bills off the table. So you don't got to worry about going work for somebody.
[00:28:43] Speaker A: I'm willing to do that to give you the opportunity to really tap into.
[00:28:46] Speaker B: Yourself and really develop and grow.
But that's why I'm gonna do it.
[00:28:50] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:28:50] Speaker A: That's the only reason I'm gonna do it. I ain't gonna pay your bills just for you to be able to sit back on the couch and cook for me or clean.
[00:28:56] Speaker B: I can do that myself, you know.
[00:28:58] Speaker A: I mean, I'm dead.
[00:28:58] Speaker B: I'm not.
[00:28:59] Speaker A: I told my man, I wash my clothes.
[00:29:00] Speaker B: I just cooked spaghetti last night for my daughter. Like, listen.
[00:29:03] Speaker A: So I don't. I don't need that. I don't need a housekeeper and I.
[00:29:07] Speaker B: Don'T need a cook, you know, so.
[00:29:10] Speaker A: But I would love to have a genuine partner that's capable of reciprocating my energy, my intellect, and be able to move forward in an obsessive manner and pursue her goals because I gave her.
[00:29:22] Speaker B: The opportunity to do so, you know, so.
[00:29:24] Speaker A: But I didn't give you the opportunity to go fly out and go take vacations and go kick it with your homegirls or just move around every day like you as a housewife.
[00:29:34] Speaker B: I don't believe in that.
[00:29:35] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:29:36] Speaker B: I believe in partners. I believe in partners.
[00:29:38] Speaker A: I salute Keisha Dior.
[00:29:42] Speaker B: Them, the type of women that I acknowledge and then give value to, you know, you know, I'm just not.
[00:29:49] Speaker A: I never been the guy that just.
[00:29:51] Speaker B: Trick off or just spend money or throw around money.
[00:29:56] Speaker A: I'd rather go. I have four daughters. I'm gonna pay my daughter's bills.
I have three grown daughters. Don't pay their bills while I pay somebody else's bills.
[00:30:05] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:30:06] Speaker A: I'm talking about life.
[00:30:07] Speaker D: So.
[00:30:08] Speaker B: And.
[00:30:09] Speaker A: And I really don't push to pay this. I try to push them to come on and get on the team and come on and let me guide you. Let me build you up.
[00:30:18] Speaker B: You know what I mean?
[00:30:19] Speaker A: But if you don't want to do that, you want to go out there and work, then, okay, you're going to go out there and work, you're going.
[00:30:22] Speaker B: To pay your bills then.
[00:30:23] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:30:24] Speaker B: You know, so, you know, it just.
[00:30:27] Speaker A: An incentive, paying for me. Paying your bills is an incentive for.
[00:30:33] Speaker B: Me believing in you and you being a part of my program and you being a part of your own blueprint.
[00:30:38] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:30:38] Speaker A: You know, I mean, I can see that. I can see you moving day to day and executing your tasks and moving.
[00:30:43] Speaker B: Them with a purpose. Oh, I can appreciate, I can value that. I could cherish a woman like that.
Ambition. Ambition to me is more attractive than anything.
But a lazy woman.
Nah, you ain't getting nothing from me. I don't care how beautiful you is. I don't care. I don't give a damn. I don't talk about how your sex game flow. None of that don't matter. You know what I mean?
So I think that's a large part of.
That's a large discrepancy. And a lot of women, they think their bodies and their looks is what's going to lock them in.
[00:31:11] Speaker A: They might lock you in with somebody that can't get a woman like that.
[00:31:14] Speaker B: They might lock you in with Skeletor because Skeletor can't go get another woman like you.
[00:31:17] Speaker A: He grateful for having you, so he gonna pay for it, you know what I'm saying?
[00:31:21] Speaker B: Or he.
[00:31:21] Speaker A: Or his self esteem or his position in life is he just so.
He's so built off having a woman or having that woman give him status because you got a lot of guys that think like that.
[00:31:31] Speaker B: We're going to talk about that too.
[00:31:32] Speaker A: A lot of guys think they want me to give them status, you know what I mean? That's why you got a lot of men out here right now. Think they're doing something about having sex with another man, wife or another man, girl. You think he doing something to that man? You ain't doing nothing to that man. That's that woman body. That ain't got nothing to do with that man.
[00:31:45] Speaker D: Next man, very toxic.
[00:31:47] Speaker A: That ain't got nothing to do with that other man. Man, listen, man, how you think you doing something to him by having sex with his. With a girl that he claimed. Now you did him a favor, you exposed her, you know what I'm saying? Like, listen, like. Like, how can you honestly think that you hurting him? But that's his mentality out here, you hear so many times. Yeah, I be that girl.
My man, My man.
[00:32:07] Speaker B: On the curse word.
[00:32:09] Speaker C: Hey, if it's a woman that you love and you fully invested in, you know, like, yeah, yeah, yeah.
[00:32:15] Speaker A: Make your chest hurt. But he did you a favor, though. Yeah, he did you a favor. He did you a big favor. They can make you choose her.
Listen, but being me. But listen, but being me, being me. As long as somebody I don't know, I. I'll think that. But if it's somebody I know that, that crossed them lines, I don't hurt that.
So those two different things, like, let's don't let it shine. Don't go about my business.
[00:32:36] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying?
[00:32:37] Speaker A: Don't be grateful for it.
I don't learn too much in life to be hurt by anything negative.
I believe strongly that anything that we experience in life, whether it's good or bad, is for our benefit. It's for our growth, it's for our development. We learn more from our mistakes than we do from our success.
You know what I mean? So we become who we are through all of it.
[00:32:56] Speaker D: Yeah, absolutely.
[00:32:57] Speaker B: You know, so.
[00:32:59] Speaker A: And that's what's kept me strong through a lot of that. I Lot that I've experienced, so. And through a lot of betrayals, a lot of the heartaches, a lot of the disappointments, so just a lot of the hardships, you know, so. And I continue to push through it.
[00:33:14] Speaker B: And continue to push on, you know, but the greatest.
[00:33:17] Speaker A: I guess the greatest attribute that I've had in my life is have loyal.
[00:33:21] Speaker B: Friends like Whitney, loyal people that I could depend on.
[00:33:24] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:33:25] Speaker B: You know, and.
[00:33:26] Speaker A: But to have a.
[00:33:28] Speaker B: A life partner, to have a woman that can.
You can say that you can give a hundred and fifty or a thousand.
[00:33:38] Speaker A: Percent of yourself all completely with no worries, no concern.
[00:33:44] Speaker B: Man, that's.
[00:33:45] Speaker A: That's powerful.
[00:33:46] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:33:46] Speaker B: It's powerful. It's Powerful.
[00:33:48] Speaker D: I pray you guys do find if you are single. I pray you guys do find what your heart's desire.
And if you guys come across new females or someone you are interested in, just let them know who you really are before taking it to the next step. And I'm gonna be done.
Come on, ladies.
Come on. We need.
[00:34:14] Speaker F: Come on, bro, we ain't even hear.
[00:34:16] Speaker E: The next topic yet.
[00:34:17] Speaker A: No, we on the same topic.
[00:34:18] Speaker E: Oh, we on the same. Okay, okay.
Well, I don't know.
I gotta come. Okay, so as far as the 5050 conversation, that's what we own, right?
I mean, it's important to recognize that men and women bring different things to a relationship. So, like, when you expect a woman to not be like a woman, like, I know you're talking about a woman. Woman being broke when you meet her. It's like a woman's value isn't held in her financial status the same way a man's is.
So that was really my main thing.
Yeah.
[00:35:02] Speaker A: So stay on the stage for me.
[00:35:05] Speaker B: Okay, so let me ask you this.
[00:35:08] Speaker A: So do you value a man right here, right now, if he pulls up here in a Lamborghini compared to a.
[00:35:15] Speaker B: Man that pulls up here in the Honda?
[00:35:17] Speaker A: The man.
[00:35:17] Speaker B: The Honda.
[00:35:21] Speaker A: The man in the Honda, the man in the Honda can't afford to take.
[00:35:26] Speaker B: You out or fly you out right now.
[00:35:28] Speaker A: But, you know, he's in school.
[00:35:29] Speaker B: He works every day, 40 hours a week.
[00:35:32] Speaker A: He takes care of his. He takes care of his kids. You know what I'm saying? He might have one or two kids. He's not with his baby mama. He still takes care of his kids. He ain't even on child support. He takes care of his kids. He can't go out with you because he takes care of his kids. He can't go out with you because he got. He got to go to school, he got to study for a test. He said, oh, I got to go work today. And his time is short. But the guy that had the Lamborghini, it ain't nothing for him to come.
[00:35:55] Speaker B: In here and spend a thousand dollars on you.
[00:35:57] Speaker A: Ain't nothing for him to fly you across the world. You and 10 other females.
You know what I'm saying? But you gonna run to him and entertain him before you entertain the guy in the Honda. And that's the current situation that's going on. Yeah, that's the current situation in this society.
[00:36:16] Speaker E: That's when it comes down to what a woman prioritizes. You have different kind of women where. There are some women where she is gonna pick the man with the Lambo and she gonna pick.
[00:36:25] Speaker A: That's the social dynamic.
[00:36:25] Speaker E: No matter how he's treating her.
[00:36:26] Speaker A: That is the social dynamic.
[00:36:28] Speaker E: But there are women where they recognize, where they might prioritize like time.
The fact that you might not have it right now, but the fact that you have the ambition, you have the goals, you have a plan, somebody can work with that more than somebody that can take me and nine of my friends to wherever. That might not be what I'm looking for, but I do know that there are some high. It's some high ladies that do want somebody with the money. And I don't knock them either. Because men aren't supposed to provide, man.
[00:36:57] Speaker B: Okay, but listen.
[00:36:58] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:36:59] Speaker A: The thing is, the guy that's in the moment, okay, in the Lamborghini, that's entertaining the team, he ain't trying to provide, he trying. He's trying to entertain. It's a difference. See, that's the thing, you know, he's entertaining to get what he want. It's nothing for him. The money that he's spreading out is nothing to him. So he's entertaining. But the guy that don't have the money to throw around, that's giving you his time, it really, really has value because he's really going out his way to give you time that he don't have. You know, he. I'm talking about his bills and his daughter. He fit you in between his daughter, he fit you in between his bills and he fit you in between school. And he still made time for you. But you ain't gonna have time for him because the guy with the Lamborghini that's willing to fly you out there eagling and saying, girl, what's up? And you know, you ain't got no future with him, but you gotta. You gonna have a great time with him. You're gonna be able to say, girl, you know what I'm saying? So, so, so, yeah, call him.
[00:37:58] Speaker E: I'm phoning a friend right now. Hold on, wait.
[00:38:00] Speaker D: You gonna make time for what you wanna make time for?
[00:38:02] Speaker E: Yes, you make time for what you wanna make time for.
[00:38:05] Speaker A: You make time what you can.
Listen, I'm speaking from a man that has very limited time. I have a 13 year old, I have four businesses. I'm talking about half 13 year old. I have four businesses. My 13 year old don't care about me going out with nobody. She want her food, she want to be home.
And I'm talking about she don't want to go to grandma house.
She don't want no babysitter. And she would try and she follows my g. She follows my location, where I'm going. She would quickly hit me up. I thought she was going away. You know what I'm saying? Listen. So it is difficult for a, for like such as myself to really say, okay, I'm finna date you seriously and give you adequate time up to your standard. I could give you what's available to me. But I'm not starting to say that I'm going to meet your standard. And even in.
And I just opened a business. This business ain't six months old. So no, I can't pay your bills. You might look at me driving a Corvette and you might see my business think, oh, he got all this money. No, I don't. I got enough money to pay my bills, take care of my children and make sure I'm there for my, my grandkids. You know what I'm saying? That's my responsibility. My responsibility. I'm talking about to my family first. So it's not for me to actually be there and be able to showcase and entertain you by paying your bills. Especially if we just met. Especially if there's no, there's no future. And if it's really that serious and I really care about you to that extreme, you can come stay over here.
That's really. I don't gotta pay your bills. I go, hey, you just come stay over here, you know? You know, so that would be more convenient and that would be more economic for my circumstances. If I really cared about you, if I really saw value in you, you know, if you really saw value in me. And that's one of my greatest things. How you treat me, how you make me feel is more.
Is more important than anything. That respect, that respect take you all the way to the. All the way to the moon with me. You know what I mean? And because I. And I think that's a, That's a lack.
This is very short thread in a relationship nowadays when it comes to respect because some women say things out there mouth, man, come on, man. I never heard my mama say that to my dad.
I ain't never in my life heard my mama say something.
[00:40:25] Speaker E: I feel like back like how sis said. I completely understand and I agree. You don't want to have to immediately when you meet a woman. You don't want to be just throwing money like that because we all do have responsibilities. But you don't want to sell a woman on a dream.
[00:40:38] Speaker A: If you looking like, if you looking Like.
But do y' all know. Do y' all know why they sell y' all on the dream?
Because y' all jump on it. Y' all move for it.
That's why they do it. It's easier.
[00:40:50] Speaker D: This is my last.
[00:40:51] Speaker A: It's easier to sell you a dream than to tell you the truth.
[00:40:54] Speaker D: But guess what?
[00:40:54] Speaker A: If I tell you the truth, you don't want to hear it.
I can tell you. Listen, I can tell you the truth. You don't want to hear it. If I tell you to tell you the dream, you going to fall on it, and I'm going to get what I want. You know what I'm saying? But if I tell you the truth, I'm not going to get what I want. So that's why the guys do it.
Y' all don't force them to do it.
[00:41:11] Speaker D: This might not tell me.
[00:41:12] Speaker A: Y' all don't force them to do it. Back in the day, when I was young. Oh, man, you cut a lot of these. You cut a lot of no women. You cut a lot of these females.
[00:41:19] Speaker D: This is my last word.
[00:41:20] Speaker A: Social media make him easy to loud.
[00:41:21] Speaker D: Now, Titus. This my last word, and I'mma be done with it.
[00:41:23] Speaker A: All right?
[00:41:24] Speaker B: Huh?
[00:41:24] Speaker D: I'll tell all the ladies in this room tonight. We gonna date them all and let the best man win at the end of the day.
Cause at the end of the day, you don't own me. I don't own you.
[00:41:36] Speaker C: What you say, Sonny?
Yeah, I'm gonna date them all.
[00:41:39] Speaker D: I said you don't own me. I don't own you.
[00:41:42] Speaker B: Me.
[00:41:42] Speaker D: The best man win, ladies.
[00:41:44] Speaker A: But when we do that before the streets, when the men do it, we for the streets. We community did whatever they tell us. We for the community. When the man do it, we toxic.
[00:41:53] Speaker D: I want them all.
[00:41:56] Speaker A: When we do that, we can't date. We can't date multiple women. A man can't date multiple women without having a negative perception.
[00:42:01] Speaker E: A man can have a whole hair.
[00:42:03] Speaker A: I can take you on a date. I can take you on a date for three weeks and know what you going to tell. You know what you going to tell your home girl. That's my main man. That my man. Man, you going to claim me even if I ain't claiming you. And I could be dating. I could be dating three or four other women. And now we got drama. And I'm a hoe. All I'm doing is dating y' all like you dating the same way. You got four, five people in your phone that you ain't Telling the truth about, but I got four females that I'm telling the truth about that I'm telling you, hey, I'm dating so and so. So and so.
[00:42:29] Speaker B: So and so.
[00:42:30] Speaker A: You don't want to hear it or that's my main man. They go, but you can keep four. You can have four guys in your phone that you ain't telling me nothing about. Nobody don't know, but always one guy to know. Everybody other guys. Y' all know that, right? There's always one guy to know about all the other guys, but it's always other guys. Y' all gonna be having a guy. Y' all be having a guy. Y' all be having a guy for the. For the gas. Y' all be having the guy for the lunch. For the. For the lunch. For the lunch. Cash app. Y' all be having the guy for the lunch. Cash app. Y' all be having the guy. Oh, this one said he'll pay.
Y' all be having the guy for this. I don't mean so many females. Watch that music. Hey, I need so and so. I need so. I had a female with text 10 guys from cash apps cuz she in the store and each one of them sent her $30 and now she done get what she want.
[00:43:11] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:43:12] Speaker A: That's how a man can't do that. I can't text you and ask you no cash app. Let me. Let me text you and ask you for a cash app.
[00:43:18] Speaker D: Well, it comes down to everybody mind they business.
If everybody mind they business, you will block me. We good. If everybody mind they business, we good. We don't own each other until we marry. Until you tell me. This is the thing. When a man.
[00:43:34] Speaker B: I just said it already. When you tell me, I done said it already.
[00:43:38] Speaker D: When he didn't tell me, he's like, look, I want you off the market. I won't take you serious. You don't have to worry about nothing else. That's the man who I'm gonna choose at the end of the day. Like I said, it made the best man win.
Everybody mind they business and we gonna be happy.
[00:43:51] Speaker A: But if I'm broke, I can't take you off the market.
[00:43:53] Speaker D: We ain't cheating.
[00:43:54] Speaker E: We.
[00:43:55] Speaker A: You know, I'm still in school.
I'm still in school. I can't afford.
[00:43:58] Speaker E: I can't afford.
[00:43:59] Speaker A: I can't afford that Mercedes car. No. Are we still in?
[00:44:01] Speaker E: You got it.
[00:44:02] Speaker A: I'm still in school, Sonny.
I'm still in school.
You see what I'm saying? Do you believe in me enough? Do You. Do I treat you well enough? Do I honor you? Do I give you respect? Do I. Do I uplift you? Do you see the value in me? Do you believe in me over my financial status? That's what we talking about with the 50. 50 or the 100? Because when I'm in position, I'm gonna give you a hundred and more if you believe in me. But as a man, I need a woman that when I'm incapable or I'm incapable of, I fall short. That she ain't gonna judge me or leave me because I can't do it.
You understand? Like. Like, instead, she gonna say, baby, I.
[00:44:43] Speaker B: Got it this month. Don't worry about it.
[00:44:44] Speaker A: I got you. Like, we gonna be what you need. Like, let's sit down, let's come up with a plan. Like, what's going on?
[00:44:51] Speaker B: You know what I'm saying?
[00:44:51] Speaker A: No, no, no, no. That's not different. Because you got a lot of women that will leave the moment you can't pay their bills. I'm telling you the moment because like you said, you set that standard. You came in with that standard. I probably came in at the top of my bag. Hold up, hold up, hold up. Now. Hear me now. I probably came in at the top of my bag at the top of my throat. So, yeah, I'm like, sonny, listen, I got you, Sonny. You ain't got to worry about nothing.
[00:45:11] Speaker B: You off the market.
[00:45:12] Speaker A: But then my business might go out of business. Now, I'm slow now. I told my slope a lot of females gonna leave me. Oh, he, he, he, she. He started taking on my business.
[00:45:22] Speaker B: He can't pay him.
[00:45:23] Speaker A: Now I gotta go. He flat.
But Willie. But Willie over here, up his cleaning village, got 10 hotels. I'm going over here, messing with Willie.
Willie, don't let it be known, man. The moment. The moment that slipped, man, holla at me.
That always in her ear. That's always in her ear. She ain't never blocked Willie from her social media. She kept Willie right there on the social media after Willie slid in that DM and told Willie, told her, man, listen, if you ever need me, I'm here. She deleted the comment and didn't block him. Kept him right there. So the moment. So the moment he slipped and fell off, she slid up on Willie. Hey, what you doing this weekend?
[00:45:56] Speaker D: So I believe that you giving the man after fact. Because as women, we're actually loyal human beings. So, no.
[00:46:07] Speaker C: Negative.
[00:46:07] Speaker A: We ain't doing that.
We're not loyal. To yourself, a woman would get mad with insurance policies A woman would get married with insurance policies. She would make sure that she is always covered. A man will go all in, and I'm talking about cut everything off and be just with her. A woman will have her high school sweetheart sitting in the cut. A woman will have the man, the deacon at the church that just pat her low in the back letter. Let her.
[00:46:38] Speaker D: Math. You giving a math.
[00:46:40] Speaker A: I'm telling you, a woman put checks on stuff that she should do because she going to keep her options always open.
[00:46:47] Speaker D: Supposed to.
[00:46:48] Speaker A: No, she's not.
[00:46:49] Speaker D: That ain't.
[00:46:50] Speaker A: That. That ain't 100.
[00:46:51] Speaker D: Then we supposed to.
[00:46:51] Speaker A: She's not being 100. She's not being solid. You're not giving a hundred. You're not being 100. You can't be a 100 till you're all in.
You can't be solid unless you all in.
[00:47:04] Speaker D: Be realist right now.
[00:47:05] Speaker A: Get the.
[00:47:06] Speaker D: Let's be real.
[00:47:07] Speaker A: Okay?
[00:47:09] Speaker F: But that's the same thing. Y' all can be. Y' all can be married and y' all can have y' all wife sitting in a different corner, but then y' all could be having y' all different little side pieces sitting in a different corner.
[00:47:21] Speaker A: Let me go to put you on.
Let me go to put you on point about something.
We do that when we 20 and 21. But when we 40 and 50, our wife know about the side pieces, the side pieces know about the wife. Everybody know about each other. When it comes to a man and a woman, men don't do all that lie. Cause we ain't got time for it.
[00:47:36] Speaker F: But you want us to be honest.
[00:47:38] Speaker A: But you just said in action. But a woman will never, ever. She would take it to her grave. My mama. My mama was here. She would take it to her grave. You understand that? But a man with a woman, y' all gonna take it to your grave.
[00:47:53] Speaker F: Of course we gonna take it to your grave.
[00:47:55] Speaker A: A man will not.
[00:47:55] Speaker F: A man can't dish.
[00:47:58] Speaker A: We don't want to deal with it.
[00:48:02] Speaker F: Y' all can do y' all karma on us. But as soon as a female get that karma back on y', all, y' all can't take it, though. Y' all can't take it.
[00:48:08] Speaker A: I ain't saying I couldn't take it. I told my. We talking about that. No, I can't take it now. I'm gonna act a fool.
[00:48:13] Speaker F: No, I'm just saying you can have. No, I'm just saying you can have. You can have your wife. You can have your wife knowing about y' all side Chicks. But it's like, y' all want us to be honest with y', all, but y' all not being honest with us.
That's even with the side piece. Yeah, you married, but you gotta be honest with your side piece, too.
[00:48:27] Speaker A: But to us, us, that's all in the side piece. Know the wife know everybody know. That's us being honest. That's us being honest. That's us being honest now. Right, but when. But you're not reciprocate that. The woman don't reciprocate that. She don't say. She don't tell us about her side piece. And her side piece is the. That know everybody. He know everything that's going on.
But the husband, the one that paying the bills, don't know everything going on. And he the one that he know everything going on. He should be able to say, oh, you with Billy tonight? All right, I'm cool with that. I'm gonna go over and kick it with Susan. You know what I'm saying? Like, but that ain't going on. You don't get a woman don't give the man a choice when the man give the woman a choice. That's what I believe. This is your high spirit. That's all I'm saying on that note. You know what I'm saying? They go, that's all I'm saying on that note.
But I'm talking about from a grown man perspective. I'm talking about from a grown man. I don't know too many grown men over 40.
Over 40 that's lying about their doings and about their moving.
Listen, maybe, but I don't mean over 40. That's lying about what they got going on. They're gonna simply say, this what it is. They're gonna say what it is, man, because they ain't got time for it.
You ever heard this phrase, cheaper to keep them? It's just cheaper. It's just cheaper to keep it. Cheaper to keep them if she say no. Oh, no, you ain't doing all that.
[00:49:42] Speaker B: All right, well, I ain't do all that.
[00:49:43] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying? I'm telling you, black men don't cheat, Titus.
[00:49:48] Speaker D: Why you gotta let me ask?
[00:49:50] Speaker A: Black man don't cheat.
[00:49:52] Speaker F: That's a lie.
That's a lie.
[00:49:54] Speaker D: Anyway, why does a man have a side piece if he married, but if he happy? Why you got a side piece? What that for?
[00:50:03] Speaker A: I'm sorry.
[00:50:03] Speaker E: I'm sorry.
[00:50:03] Speaker B: Baby, come step up.
[00:50:06] Speaker D: Why do you need a side piece if you married?
[00:50:08] Speaker E: Thank you.
[00:50:10] Speaker B: All right.
[00:50:11] Speaker A: Listen, my conversation is different on that one. My conversation is different, so I'm not gonna bring that. I'll say that for another show.
My conversation different.
I'll say no comment on that.
[00:50:21] Speaker D: All right, one more time. I'm so dumb.
I'm so dumb.
[00:50:25] Speaker A: Because at the same time, why women gotta cheat?
[00:50:27] Speaker D: One more, One more, one more, one more, one more, one more, one more. I do believe, like, I believe that all men are angels. I believe that no black man will cheat, but also believe that the. The human body is a 360. If you doing 100%. Whereas though she don't have to look nowhere else, talk, text nobody else, you have nothing to worry about.
[00:50:47] Speaker A: She can encourage that too, though.
[00:50:49] Speaker D: I believe that no man.
[00:50:50] Speaker A: But she can encourage that too, though.
How you treat your man determines whether or not he look for somebody else. You got to understand that. Because how I feel. Determine logic about how you treat.
[00:50:59] Speaker D: Absolutely.
[00:51:00] Speaker A: And if you ain't treating me one, if you ain't making me feel. You ain't making me feel like a king and a God. You make me feel like Jesus.
I don't really know what's going on. I'm talking. If you go to church and worship, you can stay home and worship. You can make me feel just as good as you do everybody else. And if you can't make me feel just good as everybody else, I see you. You can't be just as respectful, just as honorable, just as caring, just as concerned with me.
Inspire my. Inspire me and your treatment with me. Y' all need to come up to the stage with the mic.
[00:51:28] Speaker E: I'm sorry.
[00:51:29] Speaker A: They go, I can reciprocate that. But if me giving 100 and me doing all that for you and you're not doing that for me, you're gonna cause an imbalance. And as a man, I'm gonna take my steps backwards.
[00:51:40] Speaker B: I'm gonna.
[00:51:41] Speaker A: I'm gonna move myself and put myself in a position of caution.
I'm gonna step back over. Let me sit back here.
Because she's showing me traits and characteristics, and she's moving in a manner that's concerning and that's suspect. And I ain't want to sit here and try to figure it out. I'm not gonna sit here and try to investigate it. I'm not going to sit and try to make sense of it, because at the same time, my subconscious, my mind, and I'm talking about my God and my spirit is telling me something ain't right.
[00:52:06] Speaker B: Right.
[00:52:06] Speaker E: I'm glad you brought God up so The Bible, you know.
[00:52:10] Speaker B: I'm not talking about religion, though.
[00:52:11] Speaker E: I know. No, no, no, no. I'm just saying as far as the. We can go back to 50, 50, stay on track.
So as far as that, it says, he who finds a wife, finds a good thing. When you saw that woman, you saw her value. That's why you saw that she was worth investing in.
[00:52:27] Speaker A: Let me ask you this before you go there. What is. What is a. What is a marriage?
[00:52:32] Speaker B: What is it? What does a marriage represent? What is it?
[00:52:34] Speaker A: What's the difference of a marriage?
[00:52:36] Speaker E: To me, marriage is a spiritual covenant before God. It's a promise you make to honor and love your partner the way that God would want them to be loved and honored.
[00:52:44] Speaker B: All right, so let me ask you this.
[00:52:46] Speaker A: Does it take a marriage for you to do that?
[00:52:48] Speaker E: I mean, I don't believe in the paperwork, but I think marriage is a spiritual ritual that should be sacred.
[00:52:54] Speaker B: All right, so let me speak for somebody that's been married twice.
[00:52:57] Speaker E: Oh, okay.
[00:52:58] Speaker D: Right, okay.
[00:52:59] Speaker E: Talk yourself.
[00:52:59] Speaker A: Listen, what you have is what you have.
[00:53:01] Speaker B: Marriage don't define it.
[00:53:03] Speaker A: If you ain't already got it before you got married, you ain't gonna get it.
[00:53:06] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:53:07] Speaker A: You understand that? Marriage is. Marriage is not something that pushes you to another level. You understand that Marriage is just a crown. It's a celebration of what you already have.
[00:53:16] Speaker E: Yes.
[00:53:16] Speaker A: It's like having a birthday party.
[00:53:18] Speaker B: You done lived another year.
[00:53:19] Speaker E: Yes.
[00:53:19] Speaker A: You understand that? That's all it is.
[00:53:21] Speaker E: Yeah.
[00:53:23] Speaker A: It is an anointing. It is a joining of. I'm talking about an acknowledgment of what you already have. That's it. It's not going to make you be nothing more.
It's not.
It's not. And for people that look that, oh, when I'm married, it's this. No, it's not. That's why your disappointment set in. That's why divorce rate's so high. Because you can't think that by me getting him, encouraging me to push him into getting married to me or marrying me or marrying me, it's gonna make this be something else. If he ain't that before you got married, he ain't gonna be that when you. When you get married.
And if she ain't that before you get married, she ain't gonna be that when you get married. It's not gonna. They're not gonna be nothing more different. They're not gonna be nothing no different. That's like you buying a car and expecting to turn to a Corvette after two years. It Ain't gonna happen. You know what I'm saying? It is what it is. I'm talking about.
All you can do is try to encourage somebody and try to find their truth. Manifest your truth, Develop your truth through your mistakes. Show understanding, show forgiveness, show love, because all that is wrapped up in one and develop through that and develop with one another. But in your mistakes, you become better.
You don't do it twice. Now you're taking advantage of somebody's kindness.
[00:54:32] Speaker C: But on the flip side of that, you know, it's like, it's like, nah, it's like, why you gonna buy the milk if you got the cow? See what I'm saying? So some women, they aren't gonna. They aren't gonna be their full self until you give them a ring. See what I'm saying? And you can't expect them to be their full self. Same thing with a man. You can't expect everything out of me until I'm completely yours. Yeah. And, and, and that, to me, that's a trust thing. That ain't really a 50, 50 thing. That's a. That's a trust thing.
[00:55:01] Speaker B: That's the.
[00:55:02] Speaker A: That's the genuine.
[00:55:03] Speaker B: That's the manifest of the truth.
[00:55:05] Speaker A: You know what I'm saying?
[00:55:06] Speaker B: Like.
[00:55:07] Speaker A: Like they said, like saying you come in genuine, you need to come in from.
[00:55:12] Speaker B: I'm sorry.
[00:55:12] Speaker A: I'm sorry. You need to come in from the beginning, from the start. Genuine, you need. I'm talking about if you really care, you really want to manifest, you want to really want to achieve that, you want to experience it, you got to give that. You can't expect something for. You can't expect 100% and you giving 50. You can't expect truth when you giving. When you. When you pretending.
You can't expect no more than what you give. You got to be your own manifestation of truth for her to be able to manifest her truth.
Because if you pretending to putting off something that you're not, and she's vibing with your. Your act, and she pretending she vibing with the image that you portraying, that's not your truth, then you're not getting hurt.
[00:55:49] Speaker B: You.
[00:55:50] Speaker A: Because you putting off a false image. Now, when she discovered that you ain't who you is, that energy ain't right because ain't who you is, then it's gonna. It's gonna break apart. It's not gonna be true. And that's where a lot of. A lot of it come from. If you really want to be 100 with it, you'll get 100 with it when it's 100, but if ain't 100 with it, you'll be able to see that it ain't 100. You'll be able to move yourself.
All right, so we gotta go. Time ran out.
[00:56:16] Speaker B: Yoshi telling me to cut.
I got five minutes.
[00:56:20] Speaker A: I got five minutes left. But we got four now.
So I just want to thank y'.
[00:56:27] Speaker B: All for y' all feedback while I can, but go ahead.
[00:56:31] Speaker C: Say next week.
Yeah, tap in with us next week.
[00:56:35] Speaker A: Tap in with us next week.
[00:56:36] Speaker B: Next week. What are we talking about next week? What do y' all want to talk about next week?
[00:56:39] Speaker C: I don't know. Send me some ideas, man. Y' all send me some ideas.
[00:56:41] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Send me, Send me some ideas. We talk.
[00:56:44] Speaker C: Send me some ideas.
[00:56:44] Speaker A: You got a few topics. Send me this.
[00:56:46] Speaker B: Send me them.
[00:56:47] Speaker A: Cuz they I want to talk about polygamy yet.
[00:56:49] Speaker B: They ain't.
[00:56:50] Speaker C: No, no, we, I, I, I have nothing to, nothing to say on that topic, cuz I'm, I'm not in that community.
[00:56:56] Speaker B: Yeah, but you kill me though.
[00:56:58] Speaker A: No, there you go.
[00:57:03] Speaker B: I tell you, he, he's a student. He's a student. He's still learning, he's still reading. He's still doing this studying. He's still doing. Hey, I just be listening, you know what I mean?
[00:57:12] Speaker C: No.
[00:57:13] Speaker B: Ancient tribalism just polit. A modern day term is now polygamy and polymor stuff. That's all it is.
[00:57:18] Speaker C: N. I'm all. I'm staying my. I'mma stay in my lane.
[00:57:20] Speaker B: Yeah, stay in my lane.
Just cuz they work for the answers don't mean they got to work for you.
[00:57:25] Speaker A: Yeah, I work for you.
[00:57:27] Speaker C: I'm happy for you.
[00:57:28] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah.
[00:57:30] Speaker C: They ain't work for me.
[00:57:31] Speaker B: Say what?
[00:57:31] Speaker A: Sonny.
[00:57:35] Speaker B: We got your tab, girl. We ain't worried about no tab tonight. You got your tab.
[00:57:39] Speaker A: There you go. We gonna take care of your tab.
[00:57:41] Speaker B: But we ain't paying that car note for that Mercedes you got out there.
[00:57:45] Speaker C: I ain't got no half on the bills this month.
[00:57:46] Speaker A: You ain't got no half on over here.
[00:57:48] Speaker B: Guess what?
No.
[00:57:50] Speaker C: That's right.
[00:57:52] Speaker B: I'm trip you out before I leave.
[00:57:55] Speaker A: It's always.
[00:57:58] Speaker B: The females that you can't get that you.
No, no, no, I'm sorry. Hold on, let me get it right. It's all the females that you don't want that come with the nonsense. And the ones that you, that don't pay you no attention, you can't get.
[00:58:20] Speaker A: Thank you.
[00:58:22] Speaker B: The ones that I believe that probably would do, right?
[00:58:24] Speaker A: And probably.
[00:58:25] Speaker B: I'm talking about update that.
[00:58:26] Speaker A: That.
[00:58:26] Speaker B: That a guy be willing to actually go hard for. Won't step up.
They won't step up.
[00:58:31] Speaker A: They won't step up just because you.
[00:58:34] Speaker B: Ain'T willing to throw the. You a. You ain't willing to jump out there.
[00:58:39] Speaker C: I always got exactly who and what I wanted, though, so I can't.
[00:58:42] Speaker B: I can't, man.
I ain't going to sit there and say that.
[00:58:45] Speaker A: Say that. I always got that.
[00:58:48] Speaker C: Always. Ever since I was younger, I always.
[00:58:51] Speaker B: I ain't going to say that.
[00:58:52] Speaker A: A.
[00:58:53] Speaker C: Say what we looking like.
[00:58:54] Speaker B: You probably can see that, cuz. You probably say that cuz you dark skin.
[00:58:57] Speaker A: Oh, okay.
[00:58:57] Speaker C: You dark skin cuz I'm dark skinned.
[00:59:00] Speaker A: A. Yeah, yeah. Y' all be trying to play me. I'm like, nah, man.
[00:59:03] Speaker B: Yeah, it is. I did too much time in prison. That's all that is. I missed my time. I missed my time.
[00:59:07] Speaker A: I came out, it was dark.
There you go. But I. Man, listen, we love y'.
[00:59:14] Speaker B: All. Peace. Tune in next Tuesday.
[00:59:16] Speaker A: We will be on time Monday, Monday, Monday. Next Monday, we will be on time. 8:00pm, 8:00pm right here come. We'll talk about it.
[00:59:26] Speaker B: We have more mics, too.
[00:59:27] Speaker C: Yeah, Money, money.
[00:59:29] Speaker B: All right.
[00:59:30] Speaker C: Peace, peace, peace.
